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I’ve been dating a guy for 3 months. We’re exclusive and we both really care about each other. The only problem is his work schedule is so hectic that he hardly has time for me. Either he’s at work, or he’s tired. He says he’s used to most women leaving him because of his busy schedule. I think he’s worth sticking around for so I spend time with him when it’s convenient for him…that means we don’t "date" much. We do see each other often but it’s never for long periods of time. He thanks me for being so "understanding" even though I often have a problem with not being able to see him as much as I’d like to. My question is, am I truly being understanding or am I letting him take advantage of me? Is a work schedule a legitimate excuse or should I expect more from him?

my 2 cents worth….

Having answered some of your questions and coming to learn a little about you (educated in literacy) and attending Uni….

I need to point out a few things:
1. This guy has such a busy schedule - meaning he obviously knows how to manage time…yet he can’t manage some time for you? To me the busy schedule is sadly a poor excuse…
2. By his own admittance he shows that he is not a person to rate relationships highly - after not learning from his previous mistakes he still runs the "rat race". That is a great concern for you as it shows several things - lack of respect for himself and those around him, lack of maturity to take others into account.
3. It would appear that he has a high work ethic - either aiming for a goal that is rewarding for him or will benefit him. My experience (having been trapped in that same cycle) is that when you are always working to a busy schedule you never really get a chance to appreciate the finer things in life.
4. He has the "balls" to committ to a exclusive relationship but then not be around for the other….lets take into account that some people out there are MARRIED to their workplace and as such it is hardly an exclusive relationship….so what should have been said is " lets have an exclusive relationship - you cant see others - and i wont see others - but see it is not a problem for me because I dont have time to see you anyway so it is cool…." - think you get the point here.
5. Any early stage of a relationship is about exploring each other - your strengths and weaknesses and also the personaility of the other…in this case you are opening yourseld up to being hurt - committing your time and your energy to someone who is not going to open himself up to you = that you will never learn who he truly is - at the end of the day he is a chameleon.
6. Look at what you want and how this current "relationship of convenience" is benefitting you. Reverse things and ask yourself how would he react if he had a 6 hours free to see a movie with you and you said " i am tired" or i have a busy schedule….that will give you an indication.

So the list continues - but seriously you are too smart and too good to be caught up in chasing another person’s dream at the risk of losing your own goals, wants and desires. Why not tell him - if he can not be there for you and manage his time properly - (after all relationships are hard work) then why should it be exclusive? why should it even be….

Trust that gives food for thought—good luck with it all and dont be chase shadows or promises in relationships - take what is real (can be seen, felt, touched) after all a relationship is like a waking up in the morning to a beautiful day - the sunshine will warm you and embrace you…pity the people that sit in a dark room thinking of what the sunshine is like - and just let your radiance glow. There is a right man out there who will value your time (more than his own) will know how to compromise to ensure that both are happy…

in which european country do you find girls the easiest to pick up at nightclubs , hotels and shopping centres and take them to your bedroom.
18 - 40 years of age.

Well if this is your sole intention in coming to visit Europe then it is probably best to remain in your home country to be honest.

You are wasting an opporunity to visit countries full of culture, history, sights, nature, and an experience which many people would give their right arm to have.

What a shame.

in which european country do you find girls the easiest to pick up at nightclubs , hotels and shopping centres and take them to your bedroom.
18 - 40 years of age.

Well if this is your sole intention in coming to visit Europe then it is probably best to remain in your home country to be honest.

You are wasting an opporunity to visit countries full of culture, history, sights, nature, and an experience which many people would give their right arm to have.

What a shame.

As a girl, how does one attempt to approach / pick up a girl in a social setting?
Amir, I am looking for more real world advice .
I do thank you for answering, though

Regardless of gender, confidence and a smile will set you apart from everyone else in the crowd.

With girls, you simply have to be more gentle and softer in your approach than with a man.

Instead of pondering whether she is straight or bi or whatever you think she may be, just walk up to her, look her in the eye with a smile and introduce yourself. As you know, women are naturally guarded and reserved in certain public settings to protect themselves from outward advances, but they normally (whatever that is these days) are guarded against men.

What does this mean for you? It means that they don't expect women to be hitting on them like a man. Its the old saying 'they never saw it coming'.
Women, in general, can socialize with women easier because of common mental similarities. Its the reason women go to the bathroom in packs, dance together, etc.

All you really need to do again is just be confident in yourself and your ability to just walk up to her and say 'hi'. They are just people like you and I regardless of gender, and the fact that you are female, you already come off as less threatening and overbearing than a man.

A lot of people (many guys especially) may have the courage to walk up and say hi, but they have no idea what to do afterwards and that is when the deal falls apart.
The smooth transition that I always speak about is going from the simple introduction to a simple topic of conversation to keep her interest level (and comfort level with you) high.
It could be about her favorite author or receipe if you are in a bookstore, what gift she would recommend for a relative, etc..

The point is to come off as naturally comfortable talking with her about anything at all, ending with asking for a number.

Just through the course of talking with her, you will know whether or not she shares your same desires, and if not, it never hurts to make a friend. Plus, there are many females who know other bisexual and lesbian females, so they can be a good 'source' if you catch my drift.

I usually give this sort of advice to guys, but telling it to a girl, trust me when I say that you are already way ahead of the game in terms of your chances of a successful approach. You could be standing right in front of her in the bright lights of a club and smiling and she wouldn't even register it in her mind that you are trying to pick her up.
Her body is on auto defense from men, and you being a woman, you just got a front of the line pass.

As a girl, how does one attempt to approach / pick up a girl in a social setting?
Amir, I am looking for more real world advice .
I do thank you for answering, though

Regardless of gender, confidence and a smile will set you apart from everyone else in the crowd.

With girls, you simply have to be more gentle and softer in your approach than with a man.

Instead of pondering whether she is straight or bi or whatever you think she may be, just walk up to her, look her in the eye with a smile and introduce yourself. As you know, women are naturally guarded and reserved in certain public settings to protect themselves from outward advances, but they normally (whatever that is these days) are guarded against men.

What does this mean for you? It means that they don't expect women to be hitting on them like a man. Its the old saying 'they never saw it coming'.
Women, in general, can socialize with women easier because of common mental similarities. Its the reason women go to the bathroom in packs, dance together, etc.

All you really need to do again is just be confident in yourself and your ability to just walk up to her and say 'hi'. They are just people like you and I regardless of gender, and the fact that you are female, you already come off as less threatening and overbearing than a man.

A lot of people (many guys especially) may have the courage to walk up and say hi, but they have no idea what to do afterwards and that is when the deal falls apart.
The smooth transition that I always speak about is going from the simple introduction to a simple topic of conversation to keep her interest level (and comfort level with you) high.
It could be about her favorite author or receipe if you are in a bookstore, what gift she would recommend for a relative, etc..

The point is to come off as naturally comfortable talking with her about anything at all, ending with asking for a number.

Just through the course of talking with her, you will know whether or not she shares your same desires, and if not, it never hurts to make a friend. Plus, there are many females who know other bisexual and lesbian females, so they can be a good 'source' if you catch my drift.

I usually give this sort of advice to guys, but telling it to a girl, trust me when I say that you are already way ahead of the game in terms of your chances of a successful approach. You could be standing right in front of her in the bright lights of a club and smiling and she wouldn't even register it in her mind that you are trying to pick her up.
Her body is on auto defense from men, and you being a woman, you just got a front of the line pass.

I am bi-curious and am not sure how to go about picking up women

I can tell you what not to do.
My best friend is a lesbian, and she always thinks she can turn any straight girl into a lesbian. Not only is this not true, but it actually SCARES away most of her girl friends because she is so pushy.
Flirt around, and meet a girl.
After having a few awesome conversations, and getting to know eachother, if you think you might be interested in her, ask.
"Are you bi-sexual?"
Either she will say no, and youll continue being a good friend.
Or she will say yes, and from then on you can make your move.