As a girl, how does one attempt to approach / pick up a girl in a social setting?
Amir, I am looking for more real world advice .
I do thank you for answering, though
Regardless of gender, confidence and a smile will set you apart from everyone else in the crowd.
With girls, you simply have to be more gentle and softer in your approach than with a man.
Instead of pondering whether she is straight or bi or whatever you think she may be, just walk up to her, look her in the eye with a smile and introduce yourself. As you know, women are naturally guarded and reserved in certain public settings to protect themselves from outward advances, but they normally (whatever that is these days) are guarded against men.
What does this mean for you? It means that they don't expect women to be hitting on them like a man. Its the old saying 'they never saw it coming'.
Women, in general, can socialize with women easier because of common mental similarities. Its the reason women go to the bathroom in packs, dance together, etc.
All you really need to do again is just be confident in yourself and your ability to just walk up to her and say 'hi'. They are just people like you and I regardless of gender, and the fact that you are female, you already come off as less threatening and overbearing than a man.
A lot of people (many guys especially) may have the courage to walk up and say hi, but they have no idea what to do afterwards and that is when the deal falls apart.
The smooth transition that I always speak about is going from the simple introduction to a simple topic of conversation to keep her interest level (and comfort level with you) high.
It could be about her favorite author or receipe if you are in a bookstore, what gift she would recommend for a relative, etc..
The point is to come off as naturally comfortable talking with her about anything at all, ending with asking for a number.
Just through the course of talking with her, you will know whether or not she shares your same desires, and if not, it never hurts to make a friend. Plus, there are many females who know other bisexual and lesbian females, so they can be a good 'source' if you catch my drift.
I usually give this sort of advice to guys, but telling it to a girl, trust me when I say that you are already way ahead of the game in terms of your chances of a successful approach. You could be standing right in front of her in the bright lights of a club and smiling and she wouldn't even register it in her mind that you are trying to pick her up.
Her body is on auto defense from men, and you being a woman, you just got a front of the line pass.
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April 13th, 2009 - 5:12 pm
Regardless of gender, confidence and a smile will set you apart from everyone else in the crowd.
With girls, you simply have to be more gentle and softer in your approach than with a man.
Instead of pondering whether she is straight or bi or whatever you think she may be, just walk up to her, look her in the eye with a smile and introduce yourself. As you know, women are naturally guarded and reserved in certain public settings to protect themselves from outward advances, but they normally (whatever that is these days) are guarded against men.
What does this mean for you? It means that they don't expect women to be hitting on them like a man. Its the old saying 'they never saw it coming'.
Women, in general, can socialize with women easier because of common mental similarities. Its the reason women go to the bathroom in packs, dance together, etc.
All you really need to do again is just be confident in yourself and your ability to just walk up to her and say 'hi'. They are just people like you and I regardless of gender, and the fact that you are female, you already come off as less threatening and overbearing than a man.
A lot of people (many guys especially) may have the courage to walk up and say hi, but they have no idea what to do afterwards and that is when the deal falls apart.
The smooth transition that I always speak about is going from the simple introduction to a simple topic of conversation to keep her interest level (and comfort level with you) high.
It could be about her favorite author or receipe if you are in a bookstore, what gift she would recommend for a relative, etc..
The point is to come off as naturally comfortable talking with her about anything at all, ending with asking for a number.
Just through the course of talking with her, you will know whether or not she shares your same desires, and if not, it never hurts to make a friend. Plus, there are many females who know other bisexual and lesbian females, so they can be a good 'source' if you catch my drift.
I usually give this sort of advice to guys, but telling it to a girl, trust me when I say that you are already way ahead of the game in terms of your chances of a successful approach. You could be standing right in front of her in the bright lights of a club and smiling and she wouldn't even register it in her mind that you are trying to pick her up.
Her body is on auto defense from men, and you being a woman, you just got a front of the line pass.
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